WoW … Long have I heard & believed the terminology "The One", until the time when I started growing in faith & maturity in The Holy Spirit. Long before the time when I was a born again Christian, I thought that, to each person alive, there is only "One" opposite life partner that is only suitable for them & unfortunately, this idea is still widely believed & taught until this present age.
Maturity in Spirit:
With time, I understood that relationships & living with a partner, is completely different than what I first presumed. Like many, I thought that my exact opposite exists somewhere in the globe & we will be reunited somehow by crossing each other path regardless where we are positioned/located on the globe.
Mistakenly, I also thought that since she is my perfect opposite half, we should never contradict with each other & as she should be programmed to my mindset & me to hers as well …
I mean after all, God Has Created us both perfectly for each other, yeah? So really there would it be any room for error or any argument for that matter … Right… ?
Again, wrong perception …
Compatibility:
It took me a while to understand after being Redeemed by the Blood of Christ that, there must exist some kind of a coherence between life partners whom are God-Fearing individuals, i.e. those who obey God & The Will of God is in their lives.
When this condition is found, there must exist a harmony, a coherence between those God-Fearing life partners.
Meaning, for them to be able to forgive one another, accept the differences of one another, embrace each other's faults, understand one another mistakes/weaknesses/feelings/brokenness, love one another unconditionally, show compassion toward each other, stepping down from your leadership position to become your life partner’s servant & vice versa, i.e. for the both of you to really become Christ Like in this relationship.
The Bride & The Lamb:
The Lord Saw no greater bondage than the bondage of marriage, for The Lord to Portray the meaning of love. For Christ So Loved the church, as a loving husband should really love his wife. When two people enter into a relationship, usually they mistakenly think that the other partner should fill their void, for no apparent reason except that "why did I love you/marry you, if you are not going to be my whole…?"
And that's the problem with maybe 90% of relationships.
We get into relationships expecting the other partner to give & on the other hand we are not willing to take any part of this giving action but rather only receive.
The coherence I'm speaking about has to come from within, it is because I love my partner so deeply, even much more than myself, that I want to give them my all, willingly & vice versa. Only then, can things really work out between the both of us…
Because this is such a holy relationship in The Sight of God, that's why it became the reason as to why Christ Has Made this resemblance: "That the bride is the church & Christ Is the Groom".
That’s how perfect & holy the bride should be & that’s how wholesome the Groom should really become.
You see, Christ Has Set the most perfect standards ever:
Therefore, seek perfection from The Lord Alone.
Keep the Love Alive:
When you are in a relationship, the key to success, is to know & understand your partner very well, their insecurities, fear, their needs, their wants, their passion & most importantly what makes them laugh wholeheartedly.
Each one of us have all of the above mentioned criteria & probably even more, but harmony can only coexist when you understand each other, when you know each other, when you truly devote yourself for & to each other.
Not wanting self-gain or any selfish desire, but really pouring out yourself to your partner.
Be alert that such strong bondage & level in the relationship is achieved over time.
That is why a great deal of this relationship has to be devoted to really understanding one another, really get to know each other, talk as often as you can, go out as often as you can with one another, see each other in different situations as much as you can.
Just simply, really get to know your partner very well; when this step is accomplished right, it will serve you both immensely.
Know each other's strengths & weaknesses, always try to be the strength in your partner's weak areas & vice versa, NEVER gloat in any areas you might outperform or feel superior to your partner.
Last Thoughts:
Time is too short guys; don't waste your time over meaningless, mediocre fights, because when you look back at the situation, you will find it extremely trivial to even revisit the thought. Again, the key word here is "Maturity".
Try to spend more time on how to build each other, rather than tearing each other down. Be a stepping stone to your life partner not a stumbling block.
Be easy going & step on your pride to let things go smoothly.
That is if you are really keen on keeping this relationship; which by the looks of it, I presume you are, otherwise you wouldn't reach thus far in the article.
Lastly, but most importantly, Cherish & Make The Lord Your God, The Cornerstone & The Backbone & The Leader of this relationship.
Be keen to make God The Greater Umbrella in this relationship, Who Overshadows the both of you.
Keep The Lord your God on your side always & by The Grace of God, you will be able to overcome any differences, regardless of their shape, size or form factor.
May The Blessings of The Lord Jesus Christ be with you for now & forever more …
humbly,
Emmanuel Ghali (Mano)
Accredited Christian Counslor, AACC
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